We might come to think of emotions as only related to just ourselves, but we just need to ask people who are near us – people in our families and people we work with – and we immediately discover that our psychological worlds are interconnected.
This is always a boon for others, and it’s usually manifest in the ability and practice of obtaining the log from our own eye.
A good example of this is rather than diverging to anger, we proceed into our sorrow. There are a lot of things which make us feel unhappy in life. Sadness isn’t the enemy. Sadness is an invitation to recovery.
Our psychological worlds are interconnected. If we admit our harm, experiencing God’s understanding, our empathy is available to all.
But if we’re unhealthy, and for that reason unproductive, emotionally, we could cost individuals people who are near us, which is always expensive to us. We spew over them all kinds of vitriol, because rather than looking at our own crap we prefer to notice what our eye does not see very well – that small speck in them, so far as we are concerned – God wants us focused on how we could love better, not how they may be missing the mark.
We take what makes us unhappy, and rather than looking intently in our sadness, which is pain, and instead of remaining in that location we flee from pain. And the only way we could reconcile it’s to blame somebody else. We go from the heart, primary emotion of despair, which can be justified and accurate, however painful, and rather than going deep into it to be free in the tradition of acceptance, we have a shortcut and rationalise the pain as not just excruciating and unthinkable and unpalatable, but also as absurd and unjust and unwarranted. And how confident we become. It is a trick played on our eyesight. We’re seeing the wrong things.
Our psychological worlds are interconnected.
If we are hurt, and we remain unawarewe hurt others.
We go the right way or the incorrect way. We’ve got all had a taste of moving the wrong way. We’ve got all responded from the wrong types of emotions. We have all taken our anger too far, and of course having gone the path of anger when more properly it could and ought to have been prolonged sadness to the destination of approval.
Few people enjoy visiting painful places. And I know I am not among those few who seems to delight in pain. Yet I really do like, at a deeper level, the treatment of God, as He interacts with me when I’m honest enough to experience my sorrow.
The true practice entails coming to a place of complete defeat.
If this sounds defeatist, you want to understand it isn’t. It’s the most amazing thing to accept that which we can’t change. While I admit defeat and give those desires of mine which have become demands, it is like God says,’Finally, I’ve got something to work with in you. Finally, you’re weak enough to hear. Finally, you’re weak enough to adopt My strength. Finally, you accept it is ideal for you and for all concerned that you do My will.’
Coming to the place, which is a feeling of grief in oneself, is just the purpose of the Christian walk.
The grief comes first, then it is life as God scoops us up in our soul.
In our pride, which prioritises our secondary feelings like anger which won’t acknowledge the truth, we’re struck out until we take the first step toward first base.
However, as soon as our pride is handled, and we realise that these primary emotions are nothing to fear, since the pain is bearable even when it feels excruciating for a moment, we enter the secure sanctity of God and His deeper treatment for us.
The benefit of this isn’t only ours, but it’s to everybody’s advantage within our orbit of influence.