A lot people will have observed the Real Housewives series of programs or seen the media and magazine coverage of the antics and lifestyles. The tales of those’real housewives’ and WAGs may fill us with a combination of horror, envy and disdain as we see their documented options and excessive ways, especially as they are often seen as role models for young women. We might speculate that their outrageous behaviour is done in order to keep public attention and help fortify their celebrity status.
However, if we dig a bit below the surface, behind the glamour and glitz, we could see that actual housewives have their particular concerns, issues and anxieties. Indeed, some are residing personal emergencies, making life-changing decisions as well as with their time on the series to increase their public profile and gain exposure for their existing companies.
Maintaining this type of high-profile lifestyle involves plenty of pressure to maintain appearances and be regarded as living the fairytale existence. Getting photographed partying, drinking cocktails, possibly spending their spouse or partner’s cash in a whimsical self-indulgent flurry of action, bickering over trivia, seeming to sulk if they are not treated to appropriate gifts or get what they want can cause them to seem spoilt, selfish and childish.
We have no doubt noticed in magazines and on social websites how lots of the younger WAGs and Real Housewives appear to look exactly the same, morphing into each other with identi-kit hairstyles, dress designs, breast size, sporting smooth, wrinkle-free faces and pouting lips. Frequently one is indistinguishable from the other in a group picture. This could be their goal, providing reassurance that they are doing it right, after the perfect guidelines to be a part of the elite, exclusive group, much like young kids who should wear the very same brands so that they feel that they belong.
However, these options can indicate insecurity about using a single look and identity. If they looked or behaved differently what is the consequences, are they fine, good enough? They may live in constant fear of the appearance altering, of putting on a little weight, of finding a gray hair or the smallest wrinkle. How could someone find the opportunity to retain their nature and individuality whilst still maintaining constant surveillance over every aspect of their image.
Whenever we choose to judge somebody else it is necessarily done from our own standpoint, but when we go through rough times, hard feelings and pain it is a really private, relative experience. If we dismiss or belittle another individual’s problems, attempts or situation due to their apparent good luck, attractive appearance, wealth, status or perceived lucky breaks we are doing ourselves and them a disservice. Deep down most people want love, kindness and approval; we crave reassurance that we are okay.
As a true Housewife there is continual pressure to look the part rather than age. Maintaining this has to become onerous, dull and exhausting occasionally. All facets of their life, their wardrobe, private fitness sessions and remedies can fill every day, becoming a fulltime job. Frequently everyone else has an opinion, wants to provide their guidance, become a part of the group, so presenting a magazine/Stepford wife character, living the fantasy.
In leaving her character from the series she can reclaim her title, set her identity and be recognized for her abilities and characteristics in her own right, no longer part of the brand! .